We are an Australian charity focused on addressing the three and a half million people who drink at risky levels at different times in their lives. In Australia alone there are around 300,000 people a year who want to access some form of help to change those patterns, yet only 100,000 people will get the support they want.
We see technology as being the best way to fill that gap because it’s scalable, it’s replicable and you can have as many goes as you want. More importantly, you can build a community of people who are like you, with the same issues you have. Hello Sunday Morning has been supporting people to change their relationship with alcohol since 2010 and has become a global community of over 120,000 people, half of whom live in Australia. Our goal is to get better at delivering clinically effective services so that people feel part of a community online and, ultimately, change their relationship with alcohol.
A healthy relationship with alcohol depends on how you feel about your drinking and whether you think you’re making the most of your weekends and living a fulfilling life, or whether there is room for improvement. We support people to find a balance that works for them at the time.
From a medical perspective, The National Health and Medical Research Council’s alcohol guidelines state:
For healthy men and women, drinking no more than two (2) standard drinks on any day reduces the lifetime risk of harm from alcohol-related disease or injury.
For healthy men and women, drinking no more than four (4) standard drinks on a single occasion reduces the risk of alcohol-related injury arising from that occasion.
As soon as we have a drink, our brains start producing dopamine which makes us feel euphoric. They also produce a neurochemical called GABA, which makes us feel relaxed. Once we have had a couple of drinks, the inhibitory parts of our brains are affected too, so it is much harder to make the decision to stop drinking. For some people it is especially hard to stop once your blood alcohol content is above a certain amount, and that is based on your genetics and personality.
Often what happens is that we are used to having a drink to bring on those feelings of happiness, or to take away feelings of sadness/loss/boredom/anxiety, but then it is hard to stop there. That is a really common issue and one that takes time to change.
We really like the buzz from the dopamine and those feelings of calm from the increase in GABA, but that doesn’t last as we become more affected by the alcohol itself. After a while we are not necessarily happy and relaxed, but it is challenging to stop drinking at that stage as it can be uncomfortable to sober up (we can feel tired, or moody as our BAC adjusts). We can keep drinking to maintain that feeling in our brains, but we tend to get tired as the intoxicating effects of alcohol take hold and we feel the need to drink more due to the sugar content of alcohol giving us more energy.
Everyone is different in how alcohol affects them, based on your gender, history, diet, level of arousal in your brain, and tolerance to alcohol and other substances.
This is a complex question and one that requires some thought. First of all, it can be helpful to consider things like:
Once you have more of an understanding of the reasons you are drinking, or what you are getting from drinking, you will be able to plan ahead to meet those needs in other ways. For example:
If I tend to have a drink after work to relax and wind down after the day, perhaps I can plan to do something that will give me a sense of relaxation and peace around that time. Alternatively, I can ensure that I do things to look after myself during the day, so I don’t feel so stressed by the end of it.
If I notice that I am likely to drink on a date in order to lower my levels of anxiety, it might be helpful to explore what I am anxious about, and find other ways to relax and feel comfortable when meeting new people.
Once you can understand your triggers and urges to drink, then the fun part comes in – building a wall around those triggers and urges! It might be something like setting yourself a goal of three months alcohol free, and making sure that you have a replacement behaviour when you would be likely to drink.
You can also try a practical approach, like getting rid of triggers. For example, try keeping no alcohol in the house or letting those close to you know that you have decided to make a change.
We recommend signing up to the Daybreak program and speaking to a Health Coach about strategies for stopping, as well as posting on the Daybreak feed and commenting on other’s posts. A lot of evidence around what helps people to stop drinking indicates that peer support is very helpful in helping people to make changes and stick to them.
Having a community of people around you who are going through the same thing, or have gone through it before, is invaluable. If you have a trigger or urge that is particularly strong, chances are that someone has gone through that before, and will have some advice to share with you about how to get through it.
This is a big question too, but fortunately we are often able to use our past experiences to help figure out how we can effectively make changes. If you have made some changes in the past, whether it has been around your health, behaviour or work, you have already developed some good strategies and will know what helps you with getting started. For example:
I might remember a time three years ago when I trained for a half marathon. What kinds of things were helpful in working towards that? If these changes included peer support, having a routine, having set goals and having a clear date to work towards, then chances are that these are the things that will work for me to make other changes.
The other thing to consider is that change comes in different stages: precontemplation; contemplation; ambivalence; preparation; action; maintenance and (potentially) relapse.
We are all at different stages of change with lots of things in our lives. We might be in the ‘contemplation’ stage about starting an exercise regime, but might be kicked into ‘preparation’ or ‘action’ by an upcoming holiday or an appointment with our doctor.
It might be helpful to reflect on what stage of change you are in now. Whether you are in ‘action’ or if you are moving between contemplation and preparation. On any given day, we may even slip back into ‘pre-contemplation’ or ‘relapse’. That is okay. It is part of the change process to fluctuate between these. Being aware of where you are in the cycle of change can be really helpful in making lasting change.
If you are worried about a family member or friend’s drinking, it can be really good to reflect this back to them. Generally speaking, most people don’t like to hear negative feedback about their behaviour, so it can be helpful to think about how to have a conversation like this. Some things to consider talking about are:
At the end of the day, we don’t have much control over someone’s behaviour, but if we can reflect back to them what we are seeing, and present some options for them to get support, it is possible that they will hear what we are saying and take some of it on board.
Generally people change their behaviour when there are more reasons to change than stay the same. So our job is to accurately reflect reality and help them to see that there is a strong argument for change.
A physical meeting may not be suitable for those who feel that something like an AA meeting is too confronting – to share their experience of cutting back or quitting drinking with complete strangers. The same goes for people who live in remote areas or have kids and responsibilities that keep them from finding the time to attend these meetings as often as they need.
Daybreak is an alcohol support group program created from years of experience by the Hello Sunday Morning team. It is a great alternative that provides an anonymous space, with a supportive community of people going through different stages of their own journey to recovery.
This Naked Mind – Annie Grace
Stop Drinking Now – Allen Carr
High Sobriety – Jill Stark
Okay I quit, now what? – Mark Tuschel
Drunkard – Neil Steinberg
How to tell them you don’t drink – Rachel Black
Glass Half Full – Lucy Rocca
Wasted – Elspeth Muir